Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Help Children Learn To Avoid Anxiety–Don’t Pass Anxiety

There are many parents who pass fears of their past childhood on to their children. No doubt, they might have experienced some bitter experiences in their childhood. A few of the past events associated to fear and panic might be at the depth of their memory. As a parent, whatever may be the situation, you should not pass the fears on to your child.

It cannot help in any way that the child’s mind gets filled with waves of anxiety. It will be bad to make the child scare about the past things you were scared of. If so, what’s the right way of handling children? To help children learn to avoid anxiety is best suggested.

Effects of anxiety making

Your past memories bearing bitter experiences brought to the knowledge of the child will create or increase anxiety to your child. Making the child develop anxiety unnecessarily can cause depressive mental consequences to the child. For instance, if a parent is weak in language or in subject, say mathematics, projecting the same as a Ghost will make the child scare about those things. That way, the lack of confidence of the parents is passed on to the child. What will be next thing to occur? Obviously, the child will lose confidence in similar things referred to and cited by the parents. Many parents do not understand the bad effects of passing fears on to their children. On the contrary, they fail to help children to avoid anxiety symptoms in day to day events.

Cycle of getting anxiety

Children are not alike in different things to learn or become accustomed to. Parents who do not understand this do create a cycle of anxiety making. There are parents to get into tension for each and everything and increase pressure. Specifically, a parent feels proud of his or child getting through the examination in single attempt credibly. Following this, there is an over expectation of parents in the next session. If it does not happen as expected with anxiety, they do pass their fear over the performance of the child. This again makes the child get anxiety and feel guilty of non performance to the expectation. If this guilty feeling gets intensified, anything may happen. As a responsible parent, you may imagine anyway and get anxiety again. Thus, the cycle of getting anxiety with tension works on both – You and Your child. So, think of helping your child learn to stop getting anxiety.

Thursday, May 6, 2010

How to Extend Good Child Care – Here Are The Top 3 Secrets

Child care cannot be treated as a childish care. As a matter of fact good child care requires much patience and sympathy on the part of the parents. This is because the child cannot express what it needs exactly. It is the duty of the parents to learn by experience what the child wants to do to satisfy the timely need. Choosing child care service can be an easier process but it is rather a difficult thing to offer good child care. It requires an expert knowledge about the mind of a child and how the child will behave in certain situations.

While the grown ups are knowingly selfish in many things the child does not know what selfish behavior means. However, most of the children are seen to behave with selfish ends without understanding the consequences. Here is required the wise handling of a child. There are some important factors to be considered for recognition to soften the child. A good child care is based on ‘Recognition theory’- the recognition extended to the feelings and expectations of a child. Caring a child can be made easy if the parents choose to fall in line with the anxieties and hidden expectations of the child. Here are the top 3 secrets of providing good child care.

Love and affection: The most needed thing a child wants is ‘Love and affection’ by parents. The child is very happy with the gift of parental love and affection. Though it might be trivial one, there is no difference of opinion in this aspect. In the warmth of the parents, the child gets utmost satisfaction. If you are a good child care provider, you can mend your child as you like with the art of love tone and lending heart. Love and be loved by your child.

Security: Next to love and affection, the child needs an atmosphere of ‘secure’ for future prosperity. To be a secure provider means opening life policies, bank savings, and providing opportunities for earnings. These can be provided only by the parents of the child. Here is the amazing tie up of parental care and child care. When the child feels secure both from internal and external factors, desirable behaviors are formed.

Trust:
This is of course the most important factor that any parents should consider. The child should feel every activity of the parents trustworthy. In parental child care, trustworthiness is the baseline to establish a cordial relationship at home.

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Tips to Recognize Signs of colic in crying Baby

Parents of newborns, specifically first time parents, are inundated with responsibilities connected to caring for their infant babies. Hugging a fussy baby is a challenge to the parents. For experienced parents, the baby care may be a simple matter. However, they too feel puzzled or even annoyed when they are not able to console the baby by any means.

No matter how much experience you have gained on your go on parenthood scale, you cannot take it easy and deal successfully with a colic baby. But it is absolutely needed to know the difference between casual fussiness and colic stricken situation with your crying baby. The pediatricians can remind you the ‘rule of rectangle’ giving tips to recognize signs of colic babies.

1. You will find it difficult to console your crying baby for 2 or more hours in a day

2. You may experience the same problem on 2 or more days in a week

3. Sometimes you will be vexed to hear inconsolable baby crying that lasts 2 or more weeks

4. Sometimes it happens that the baby cries just recalling the bitter past

Since these are the likely signs of colic, you should diagnose your baby with colic. However, parents of newborn baby need not take weeks together to understand why babies cry inconsolably for hours together at a time.

That is why, even before the baby is taken to a pediatrician, you should consider your baby crying as one among many symptoms of colic baby. Here are some usual colic symptoms:

1. Episodes of Baby Cry: You can neither stop the baby cry by force nor soothe the crying infant so easily by usual methods like feeding, holding, or rocking.

2. Baby Crying Pattern: The picture of baby crying cannot be predicted and so it is just a matter of baby’s choice. Your baby’s cry may be heard after feeding, or when going to bed for an unusually extended duration.

It’s for your kind attention that all babies use to cry very often, but that cannot necessarily be sure sign or symptom of colic pain. For instance, the crying of the baby after mealtimes may be a trouble caused due to the digestive problem. So, you may try a change of diet formula and notice changes before consulting a pediatrician.

There are temperamental cries too. So, you should be a keen observer and find the right solution.

Friday, April 24, 2009

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Thursday, April 23, 2009

DEPRESSION IN CHILDREN IS TOO BAD

Sometimes it happens that some children suddenly refuse to go to school any more. In such situation, the parents are bewildered and find no way what to do. They try everything-pleas, threats, even beatings- but they don't help to the situation. Although depression among children is not as common as it is among adults, it is by no means unusual. There are a number of reasons why a child may become depressed. The most common is the stress in the family due to factors such as quarrels, child abuse or alcoholism. Another reason is genetic. While some of the indicators of depression, like sadness, excessive irritability and diminished self-esteem, are the same for adults and children, not all are.

Moreover, while the symptoms given below are commonly exhibited by children who are depressed, it's important not to jump to too hasty conclusions. Such behavior doesn't always indicate depression. You should seek psychiatric help only if the symptoms haven't been prompted by any obvious reasons, and if they don't disappear even after you talk things over with your child in a supportive, loving way. The most common signs of childhood depression are:

Clinging behavior: The death of a close relative, starting school, the birth of a sibling-are are some of the obvious reasons a child may feel insecure. However, if a child inexplicably starts clinging to you and expresses fears of separation, there may be something wrong.
No inclination to play: Depressed children often say they're bored, and stop playing with their friends.
Anti-social behavior: Lying, playing truant and stealing, could be signs of depression if the child has rarely misbehaved in such ways before.
Constantly putting oneself down: While depressed adults who feel worthless tend not to talk about it, many depressed children keep repeating how "bad" they are.
Bed wetting: Once children attain bladder control, they rarely lose it. So if they resume wetting beds, depression may be the cause.
Frequent nightmares: Practically all children get frightening dreams once in a while. But if your child gets frequent nightmares, he could be depressed.
Doing badly at school: Sodden school phobia can be a sign of depression. So can a marked decline in a child's scholastic performance.

Most cases of childhood cases can be successfully treated if detected early. So if you suspect that your child is depressed, seek professional help quickly. In any case, never brush aside a child's feelings as unimportant. Children deserve just as much respect as adults.

Nowadays children are highly sensitive and discerning. Wise parents should know well how to deal with anger and tackle other problems of growing children.

Saturday, February 14, 2009

ANGER MANAGEMENT TECHNIQUES FOR CHILDREN

Anger is another form of emotion or feeling experienced by children and adults alike. It ranges from rage to the milder forms of resentment. It’s needed with parents to know anger management techniques for children. The children use outbursts of anger for attracting attention to obtaining a desired goal. Interference with feelings or activities of the children may arouse a form of behavior as anger-usually aggressive in nature- expressed by screams, kicks, stamps, sulks, or cries.

The temper tantrum represents a display of emotional behavior for the purpose of gaining favour. In an aggressive child, it takes the form of striking, tearing, kicking, and holding the breath. Unless the child is helped with anger management skills to gain emotional control he is likely to continue the tantrum technique perhaps throughout the entire life. If a child “throws a tantrum” before learned to talk, the parents should understand that the child is actually suffering and needs their help.

As a child learns to vocalize and to use language he begins to express anger in less aggressively physical ways, but he may continue his acts of disobedience and physical resistance. When a little girl is very angry she is likely to say to her mother” I don’t like you.” To avoid such critical situation, a good knowledge of anger management techniques of children plays a main role for compromise.

Causes of anger problems:
It is usually caused by infusion of frustration or major depressive disorder.
Infant: Physical restraint like tight clothing
Child: Toilet training and food taking compulsion.

Tips to dealing with anger management:
There is no need for separate anger management program. To think of anger control by anger medication is foolish.
1. Needless commands or derogatory remarks that arouse anger should not be dangled before the child. Such words are felt by children as ill treating of their endevours to achieving the goal. It may lead to depression anxiety anger and delusion which are not good for health.
2. Denying for everything should be avoided by the parents. Instead, alternatives may be given. It’s quite natural that the children may have anxiety of knowing about and owning new things for them to enjoy. In such occasions, the parents should not deny totally but satisfy them with substitutes.
3. Preventing or minimizing the provocations is one of the best ways to deal with anger. Some behaviors may be annoying to the parents as destructive to their welfare. Such behaviors alone can’t be accounted for preventing and irritating every activity of the children.
4. Talking with them about their feelings is another of the best of anger management tools to teach the children about how to control their feelings. It would be compromising and consoling to the children if the parents share with their feelings good or bad. The child should be given appropriate anger management help to express their anger in appropriate words as let out technique.
5. The parents should be a model of anger management for kids in controlling and keeping off unnecessary situations to arouse anger as a main concern. Molding the children positively onto their way of expectation is an art to execute by being an example to follow.

It’s safe to bring up your children as blossoming buds and with desirable habits and you as parents should know the anger management techniques of your children and related matters.

HOW to TAKE CARE of NEWBORNS

Caring for Newborn:
Giving birth to a child is sometimes really amazing, and it is safe when the baby is in its mother’s womb. From the instant the baby emerges from the cocoon, you need to pay special care, and there is plenty of it in newborn baby care about how to take care of newborn baby. Know well what will be the newborn baby needs, except for the love that you offer, and there is plenty of it. You need a little knowledge to taking care of baby connected with food, sleep and baby skin care. It’s sometimes excruciating that you can’t handle it to your wishes since the skin, eyes, bottom and other features are so delicate. There are some common problems with skin conditions like baby gerbils, baby acne, cradle caps and heat rash with sunburn common with newborns of any country.

Skin care: Skin care is the foremost factor in spite of its adaptability to the new environment. Skin is so red, that it offers irritation and infection to every touch, so it’s best to wash cloths with special detergents. Baby skin loses moisture quickly, and sensitive that it needs time to absorb and retain moisture to its need. So, keeping your child with cold or warm perfume baths daily is not suggestive, may be on alternative days suiting other conditions. It’s something so gentle, that it needs to care and treat with new born baby care. It’s best for protecting the baby from bacterial infection by using homemade baby wipes and diaper to cleaning your little ones.

Umbilical cord: Until and after the falling off, the area around it should be kept clean with hygienic soft cotton with alcohol application.

Head care: Head is so delicate with soft hair to keep clean, so use of only baby skin care natural shampoo perhaps the same product. The pulpy scalp is a protected area against rough handling when padding anything around it.

Heat rash and sunburn: Skin learns to accommodate with new surrounding, so no much fear about needed. Whatsoever, keeping off the baby from direct sunlight for a long time should be avoided as a measure of infant care against heat effects. Protecting the baby appropriately perhaps with cheap baby clothing suiting to the weather is wise of the mother.

Baby acne and cradle caps: Baby acne may have its effect for the first two or three months, but no need to treat unless infected. It is protected with homely and regular baby baths with natural care therapy. Cradle caps are another one of the same nature which may be easily handled with soft brush to clean using some herbal moisturizer. It’s best to use natural baby products avoiding synthetic products like talcum powder complimented by organic skin care treatments to avoid dry skin.

Itzbeen baby care Timer: Use of an innovative product called Itzbeen baby care Timer which is available onto the market designed to help the parents to take care of infants. You can have warning alarms set for feeding, waking and diaper changing. It is of light weight & easy to carry everywhere.

External support and advice: Connected with newborn baby care-how to take care of newborn baby There are expert advice service centers caring for baby with latest information and parent to parent support, Day care centers and departmental stores selling hygienic products and other baby gadgets like feeding accessories, bottle warmers, breast pumps and car sheets. You can use these services wisely to care taking of your baby.